Regrets. We all have them. Some ignore them while others wallow in them. Fewer benefit from them.
Wouldn’t it be great if you could benefit from your regrets or if you could convert the negative emotions surrounding your regrets into positive emotions that fueled your success?
Here are six things you can do to achieve just that:
- It happened so accept it. Don’t play “what if.” At this point it doesn’t matter. The more you rehearse your regrets the bigger your regrets become.
- Deal with the emotional first and, as quickly as possible, let it go. Why? Because if you don’t deal with the emotional, the negative emotions will continue to gnaw at you. Spend a few minutes going deep into the pain of the regret and then let it go. Stop the negative from trickling in.
- Identify what you learned. No loss or setback should be wasted. If you don’t find a lesson, you are likely to create the same regret in the future.
- Decide what you won’t do again. Be clear on what to avoid. Pinpoint the biggest cause of your regret and, if you can’t completely avoid it, be wary when you find yourself in that territory,
- Commit to a different and better course of action. What’s better than knowing what not to do? Knowing what to do instead.
- Let the disappointment fuel you. Disappointment is natural, but it can be turned into resolve. Bring the same energy you formerly had about your regret and convert it to the positive energy of commitment and determination.